i'm only 13 years old,and i've already lost my virginity,to my 15 year old boyfriend of nearly half a year.my parents forbid our relationship,because he's 2 years older than me,so we see eachother in secret.last friday(27th february),we had unprotected sex about 4 times during the night,only lasting about 10 minutes each time.i'm not due on for a couple of weeks,but if i am pregnant,there's no way i could tell my parents,i couldn't keep it either,how could i abort it without my parents even finding out?

Jessica.....you are in some dilemma. Well I would strongly suggest not having unprotected sex unless your ready to have a baby. Both having an abortion and having a child are difficult things to go thru. And if you are pregnant I don't know how or if your going to be able to not tell your parents and have the abortion. Someone has to drive you there and it is going to be painful emotionally and physically and they have to put you under anesthesia and then someone has to drive you home. Not to mention when you go home you are going to still be very groggy and not feeling well. You are only 13 and making these choice can severely change you physically and mentally no matter what decision you make so I would highly suggest you try your very best to avoid getting yourself in this situation again, by that I mean unprotected sex. I really don't want to come off as mean or telling you what to do but I have been in your shoes and I know how alone and confused you are right now. I am here anytime to talk. I wish you the very best. Jessica

Hey there, my name is Meg and I wanted to discuss your situation a bit...you and I have something in common and that is losing our virginity at 13, I am 27 now and I can tell you from painful experience that you may be heading down a wrong path...I too had a boyfriend that my parents did not want me to be with, I went behind their backs and had sex with him, he was older than me too...my dad sent me to live with my mom and I started doing drugs and ended up moving in with my aunt and sleeping with more boys, got kicked out, went to live with my other aunt, slept around more, did more drugs and ran away, by this time I was having sex with boys even when I didn't want to and didn't realize it was rape , it was not violent but I said no and they didn't listen....I would love to send you my story, it is much too long to post on here, I am actually almost done with writing my book about my past of being promiscuous and I am willing to have you read it if you want to and hopefully you will see that you are ultimately going to hurt yourself and the ones you love if you head down this path....there have been girls who have had abortions without their parents knowing, some of those girls have died due to complications that their parents did not know to watch out for, the parents only found out their daughter had been pregnant and had an abortion after autopsy, they had wished their daughter would have talked to them....the truth is that there are places to find an abortion and they will do what they can to help you keep it from your parents, however it is illegal, most states the legal age of consent is 16, some 14 but I am yet to know of any state where it is legal for you to consent to have sex legally, do you want to put your life in the hands of someone who would lie about your age on legal binding documents in order to legally murder your child, then if there are complications due to the surgery let you die rather than contact your parents or the emergency room? I would not trust someone like that with my life and the sad thing is other have and they are not here to warn you...there is also the truth that some abortions are "successful" even though to use abortion and successful in the same sentence makes me sick but then you will live with the secret shame and depression like you will read about in many of the stories on here, please, no matter how much you think they will be mad at you you need to talk to your parents, they do love you, its not that they don't want you to be loved by him, it is not that they don't want you to have fun, it is just that they love you so much and they have been though their teen years and probably have friends with stories like mine and they have seen the hardships faced by these kinds of choices...please let them love you, feel loved that they care for your future, if this guy loves you he will wait until you are old enough to be with him, please...take some time to really think about what is important, if you end up pregnant and get an abortion you may never have that chance to be a mom ever again, 13 is young, you have your whole life ahead of you, that is a long time to live with regret...please email me at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it or go to my profile page and email me through the site and I will send you the rough draft of my story to see where the road you are on will take you...Love Meg

hello meg,thankyou for your comment,it has helped alot,and we do have alot in common.if i did have to have an abortion,if the worst happens,could i take a pill that would stop the pregnancy,or would the doctors or the clinic keep a record of it and tell my parents?and how much would it cost?please comment me back.

You are very welcome, I am glad you brought up the abortion pill, it is actually just as dangerous and it has caused death also, not to mention that it causes the death of the baby, listen to those words, causes the death of the baby....that is a human life, what would you think of a person who gave birth to a healthy happy child and then moments after birth she reaches down for the baby and cuts it into pieces and throws it into a garbage? What would you think of a woman who gives birth and immediately smothers the baby to keep it from breathing, or dumps a flesh eating acid solution over the baby to kill it? That is wrong and how a woman could watch that much less be the one to do it baffles my mind and she would be sent to prison for murder, what is the difference in where the baby is located? Is it somehow acceptable to cut a baby up, or suffocate the baby, or burn it alive with chemicals while it is inside a woman's body with no legal consequences but yet you take the baby out of the "safety" of the womb and it becomes a heinous, disgusting, unthinkable act that demands prison time? The mother is called a monster and a psychopath for what she has done...just because abortion is legal does not make it ok...just because alcohol is legal does not mean that it is ok to get super drunk and drive around and cause life taking accidents...In my opinion there is not much worse in the world than a child rapist/murderer....here is someone who takes this child and violates them in the worst way possible and then takes that precious life, I have seen pictures of murdered children who were mutilated by child molesters, these poor little girls were so weak and defenseless and their bodies left bruised, bleeding and lifeless in a sleeping bag behind a dumpster, it makes a person want to throw up, how is abortion any less disgusting? Just because they use a red bio hazard bag and a "sterile" medical room, just because they have permission by the law to use that dumpster for disposal, just because the mother gave permission does it somehow erase the fact that this is a human life? That little girl who could someday have those bouncy little piggy tails on her head, the little boy you see in the sand box with a toy truck making sound effects as he drives it? They all started out in that deep secret place in a woman's body...the place that is supposed to be safe...we all started out as a little speck, we looked like sea monkeys, our little arms and legs were just bumps on the side of an odd shaped "blob" of life, you know what though, before the arms and legs are even full developed, we had a brain, we had a steady and consistent heart beat with a fully developed circulatory system, we had a spinal cord that was in perfect line from our nub of a head to the lower back and even though a person can not tell the distinct portions of the body yet the body itself knows the boundaries in which to develop, you do not even know if you are pregnant yet and you are so willing to take this life into your own hands, you are willing to commit legal murder at 13 years old...I want you to read this story, it was written by a friend of mine,

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as for the "clinic" keeping record they probably wont because it is illegal for them to not report your boyfriend to the police because you are under the age of consent, but like I mentioned are these the kind of people who's hands you want to put your life into? They do not care about you or your life or your baby or your relationship with your parents, they just want that federal funding and the paycheck....you will be just another number to them, another faked birthday, please call this number, 1-800-395-HELP, this is a place where you can get the number and location of the closest Pregnancy Resource Center to you where you can get a FREE and CONFIDENTIAL test and they will be there for you, they can help you talk to your parents if you want them too, they can help you find the best options for your situation...I hope that anyone who has had an abortion is not offended by what I shared, I believe it to be truth, I do not however judge those who have had abortions, I do not think that those ladies are horrible, I just think the abortion itself is wrong....Just wanted to clear that up...please, go to your parents and fess up, let them be your parents and help you through this stage of your life...Love Meg

I agree with everything Meg has said, she is right and you should listen to her. Abortion is MURDER no matter what anyone says. Please talk to someone you trust, and if you are pregnant please dont punish your baby for merely existing. its not the childs fault you had unprotected sex at such a young age. please think about abstaining from sex after this, because abortion should not be used as a type of birth control. it is wrong and you will regret it for the rest of your life.