I think you should have a serious talk with him about what he wants from life, from you and the relationship and ultimately how serious he is about you. I definitely agree that if he's not in it for the long run then he should be meeting your boys; and that's exactly what you should ask him. Ask him if he's in it for the long haul and if he wants to eventually settle down and stay with you. If his answer is no, then I'm sorry; but there will be someone out there who wants to settle down with you and your boys. If he says yes, you may also want to ask him how much he knows about little kids/babies and how good he has been with children in the past, so you get a general idea of how much you will need to help him in the start with getting used to the boys. When you introduce them, that will probably be a very nerve-racking experience for all three of them, so try to make it fun for the boys to help them relax and get used to him, and help your boyfriend with being around them if he doesn't really know what to do/how to react. Even if he says yes to your questions and it seems like he wants to be a father figure, try introducing him to your boys as just a friend of yours at first, as a trial thing to see how it goes with them first. I hope I helped
. Good luck!!
