I see some great advice already but I want to share as well...I will not lie, going from one to two is the hardest adjustment I ever made with my kids, I have 4....I clearly survived though..LOL...you will too, I had my oldest help me with diaper changes and she would take the diaper to the garbage for me, I had her start helping with little things, it helped me and made her feel important and gave us time for just us, she would fold wash cloths and put clothes on hangers, yes even at 2-3 years old she was very capable of that, you also have time to adjust because it is really the terrible 3s you need to worry about...hahahaha, 2 was nothing, 3 is HOLD ON FOR THE RIDE!!! LOL....just make sure you take time with the older one, go on little dates when you can, let her know she is still special to you and always will be...my oldest is now a little mommy, not literally as she is only 8 but she cooks, she can load and start the dishwasher and empty it as well, same with the washer and dryer, she is practically capable of operating the house when I am sick...she is awesome....I have no doubt in my mind that her drive and love for helping is because I trained her to do so when her brother came along, sometimes she will be a little resentful and complain about helping but that is normal with all kids but the vast majority of the time she is BEGGING me to let her cook dinner or give her sister a bath (she is 2)....be creative and have fun, just know that no matter how rough the rough patches are that the blessings will far outweigh them...I think 2-3 years is an ideal age separation...Love Meg