I need quick advice about what to do in my situation. So I found out that I was around 8 weeks pregnant about a week ago. My partner and I weren't expecting the results to come out at positive, but all three did, and so not I really don't know what to do. I know that my heart's telling me to keep the baby and not get an abortion, but my partner has a different view on the situation. He and I have been together for two and a half years now, and I honestly believed him to be the love of my life, but when he found out that I was possibly thinking of keeping the baby, he said that he was going to leave the city and that I was going to be on my own. His parents, too, feel that I hsould get an abortion because we're young.. I know that if I had this baby he or she will be the turning point in my life. I know that this person will give me that extra push I need to complete my studies and become something worth being in the end of it all. I know that I'll love my baby unconditionally, no matter what people think of me.. I know that I would do anything for my baby and if the daddy doesn't want to be apart of his or her life, then I can deal with it. I have family and friends that are here to support me anyways.. I'm turning 18 in two weeks and he's turning 19 in august. When his mom got pregnant with him she was my age, and she was going to get an abortion, but when she heard his heartbeat, she changed her mind. Why, because it's a mother's instinct. She told me that it was the best thing that happened to her and she wouldn't take it back for the world because he's her son. Now I'm in this situation, and she's telling me to get an abortion because we're too young and we won't be able to handle it and I'm going to ruin her son's life.. is she not just contradicting herself? She's saying that I'm being selfish because I'm not looking at this situation from their point of view and only mine. I do see their point of view, but they don't get it. She couldn't go through the abortion because of the same reason I'm second guessing one. I'm really scared and nervous and I need help now. Please someone, help me decide on whether or not I should keep this baby..

Hey there, My name is Meg and I think you should listen to that voice within you to keep your baby...I cannot believe that your boyfriends mom is telling you to get an abortion after what she went though....No matter what happens with his family I know you will make it and be a great mom...your maternal instinct is already kicking in to protect your baby...I don't think you left this post because you really need advice on what to do, I think you left this post to find a way to back up wanting to keep this baby....I think you should...I know you should....I was 19 when I got pregnant the first time and 20 when I gave birth, you have so many resources available and if his family chooses to walk away then it is their loss, chances are once they see the ultrasound pics and once the baby is born then they will fall in love with this baby...you already have because you are this baby's life source....it takes guys longer to come around...as for his mom she is selfishly looking at this and saying "if my son flakes out then I will be responsible to help support this baby", sad but true...keep this blessing and allow yourself to love him/her without feeling guilty....please let me know what you are going to do and know that you have a ton of support here on Standupgirl, we all love you and are here every step of the way, even during the bumps in the road...Love Meg

Hello new friend,

Oh your story...how can I begin. It rings too familiar in today's world. "They want me to, they think that I should, I'm afraid of what they'll think..." It goes on and on, and I'm challenging you sweet girl to look beyond what others may say, feel or do as a result of your actions.
You already know the answers....I've read them. Take your post and cut out all the parts about everyone else....give it a try and read what's left.
Be a leader my friend and trust in yourself.

As for the others, there's a natural instinct in all humans to be who God created them to be. He also created us with a free will.
Now, we can chose to become who He wanted us to be, by listening to our hearts and following God's call to us......which we would then be rewarded. Even after sinning, we can stop our sinful past by asking for forgiveness,amend our lives and still be rewarded.

Or sadly, we can pull away from HIS plan and exercise our free will. This usually leads to selfish actions, worldly desires, and the list goes on and on. This unfortunately leads to pain, suffering, feeling lost and empty......and we will find no solace in life. The yearning will not be satisfied...

This is the life after an abortion....this is the life your boyfriend and his mother want for you? They want YOU to live with THEIR decision. Nothing will ever justify having an abortion.

You're family however, should be commended for standing behind you.....virtuous family life produces virtuous families. They've helped develop who you are so therefore you are open to life. Don't change!! There's not enough of young girls who are being brought up in families like yours. You are very fortunate to have been given these values of life.......

What is your bf's mother talking about? You may not seem old enough in the eyes of the world by way of age or experience, but you have a better head on your shoulders than most.

I will pray for you and please stay in touch.
God bless you and your baby, (whom you love already)
myangelsinheaven

I know what you're saying. I love my baby already, and my boyfriend and his parents, well mother actually, continually keep calling me and pressuring me into having an abortion. I haven't been answering their calls, because I know that their pressure is only going to stress me out and I feel I need time to get my mind straight. I talked to my boyfriend today, and he seems more calm about the situation. He knows that he's been pressuring me and he understands that I need time tomyself to figure things out. I know in the end of it all, I'm going to want to keep my baby, even if it means my whole life's going to change. I don't expect my wholel ife to be revolved around partying anyways, there's a time in a person's life when they grow up, and this is my time. My boyfriend told me that he knows that it's going to be hard.. and he's not ready to be a dad because he's not sure if he can handle it, and I understand that. There obviously is that pressure when you realize that you're soon to become a parent, but I know in my heart that if he loves me and wants to be with me like he claims to, he'll be there for me in the end of it all. This week has been the hardest ones of my life, my family and I are having arguments about the whole situation involving my boyfriend and his parents, and my boyfriend and I are having arguments about why I'm being so "selfish" with my choices not to talk to his mother. Honestly, when they constantly call and threaten to come to my house because of this.. only makes me want to push them further and further away. I realize that they have a say in this as well, but all in all, it's my decission and I'm not going to let anyone change my mind about what I feel is right in my heart. I need support. I think that's why I wrote this in the first place. I'm happy you guys are there to help me through this, and I really appreciate it.

Definitely take Meg's advice! Abortion is NOT a good choice, it would destroy you as well as your baby.

Your decision is the only one that matters, for the life of your baby!!

Anyone can try and rationalize killing a baby for many reasons.....but there is only one simple answer not to...It goes against God!

You can make a difference in the life of your baby by acccepting the call to be a mother, and prove to the world that we do not want this in society any longer. One girl asked, "Why is abortion legal?" It's because we've demanded it.

Each young girl facing the same decision as you, can walk away from the world's ideas and be stronger, confident and help to bring about a new country where we do not murder our babies.

You have it inside you to be a mother...listen to your baby and your heart speak to you.

You are in my prayers this evening.
Your friend in Christ,
myangelsinheaven