Mommieofchris, I think you are so brave. Thank you so much for posting on this forum. I am grateful for you!
I would just like to clarify that the type of Herpes that you get on your mouth is called Herpes Simplex Type 1 or HSV-1 for sort. This is commonly referred to as a fever blister or a cold sore. A canker sore is something different.
Genital Herpes is called Herpes Simplex Type 2 or HSV-2 for short.
Not all that long ago it was not possible for a person to have HSV-1 on their mouth and transmit it to their partner's or their genitals, but Herpes, just like any other virus mutates and now it is becoming possible for HSV-1 to be transferred to the genitals.
This is from the CDC (
www.cdc.gov/std/Herpes/STDFact-Herpes.htm):
HSV-1 can cause genital herpes, but it more commonly causes infections of the mouth and lips, so-called “fever blisters.” HSV-1 infection of the genitals can be caused by oral-genital or genital-genital contact with a person who has HSV-1 infection. Genital HSV-1 outbreaks recur less regularly than genital HSV-2 outbreaks.
Commonly, people think that they are only contagious when they are having an outbreak. Not true. Whether or not you are having an outbreak you are contagious. There are only certain times of the month in which you can get pregnant, but you can spread Herpes any time you have sex.
Valtrex is a great medication (but expensive) for those with Herpes. However, the commercials are nothing short of misleading. Herpes is pretty painful when you are having an outbreak. Valtrax shortens the length of time of outbreaks and the severity of the outbreak so the person is more comfortable. But Valtrex does not make you non-contagious or even less contagious. It just helps you to have fewer and less painful outbreaks. If you have sex you can still spread it and you can still catch Herpes from an infected person if they are on Valtrex.
A lot of people have the idea that they will just have oral sex to be \"safe\". They are only thinking about pregnancy. Pregnancy only lasts 9 months. Herpes and other viral sexually transmitted diseases last a life time.
There is no such thing as safe sex.